Meeting Marti?
Your friend? He (or she?) does not sound like a very good friend! I do not think I would like to meet this person.
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You are right and most people don't take the time to look deep enough to make the needed adjustments. More and more we taking on multiple identities but what happpens to the person, like your identity. They are always looking on the surface. All I can say is keep your closets clean...Art