What exactly is "Ugly"?

I was pondering this question this morning while getting dressed for work.
Someone recently made the comment that I was "hard on the eyes" or in other words, ugly. It hurt my feelings and to make matters worse, it was added "But you are so smart!" That's the same as telling a fat woman she has a pretty face.
But then I ask --- What exactly is ugly? I think of all the nerds that were considered ugly but are successful billionaires now. Do we still see them as ugly? Is it the straight hair? Bushy hair? Is it intelligence? Is it our confidence? How we carry ourselves? Maybe just our perpective that we consider a person ugly or beautiful? Maybe it's how other people perceive us. I have always thought if I felt confident and carried myself well I would come across as, well, not ugly. But confidence can't work miracles.
There is a standard impressed upon us by the media of what we "should" look like. Those of us who don't, are considered ugly. It is made clear by our peers that one is not "good enough" when seen as being ugly.
To be aesthetically pleasing means you are not ugly. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder but society has conditioned us to define beautiful as proportional body and face, blemish free, straight white teeth, nice full hair and thin figure. "Ugly" therefore would be someone with blemishes, disproportionate features (big nose etc.), over weight, thin wispy hair, crooked yellow teeth. This doesn't mean someone "ugly" could not be attractive.
Most of our perceptions of "pretty" and "ugly" come from conditioning from our parents, our environment and the media.
We have these perceptions so deeply ingrained in us.
Often we let other people and television and radio and magazines decide what's "nice" and what's "pretty" and what's "ugly" to us.
Yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and as humans, we have feelings, so the "eye" can change. We may think someone is "ugly" now but can change our minds about that when we take the time to truly look at them, get to know them. Another note, we may hear of someone "ugly", but is that really how we see them or are other things going on? Such as inferiority, jealousy, to name a few.
YOU have to decide that for yourself.
In God's eyes, no one is ugly. He created us.