Some people come in peace, harmony and unity and others come in aggression, problems, destruction, all the stuff called drama, by which kind of people do you want to be surrounded? Many don't know, are lead to believe "it is what it is" so you need be able to "check yourself".
The problem: We keep getting less for more? When you figure out you can get more for less rather than less for more everything is going to be much simpler. The more is on the end, not the receiving. You know how people shut themselves out, stop sharing, failing to realize what you give is what you get and at that time we don't give a damn. How does it feel when it comes back.
You divide yourself into two people, victim and perpetrator. Everything is internalized and you're in conflict with your own self. As you try to fool others, you're first fooling yourself. Has to do with power and balance, abusive relationships, bullying, psychological aggression and you deny this all.
Self conflict is self inflicted,results in gaping wounds and leaves scares. Just means you aggravate the hell out of yourself.