Why you are fired from a job because of a conflict, the conflict is due to an underlying agenda, whether you knew it or not and it's the same in your home.
The best way to deal with an underlying agenda is to first "check your own" against the Seven Deadly Sins. They are a lot harder than anyone of us can overcome alone.
Anybody can make a public scene but when it comes down to self, what do you tell yourself? Do you go out and take revenge or what exactly can I do? How do we get even? What happens when you get mad?
I'm reminded of events, accidents... like 911. We follow the lead, if not you're going to get run over. Any peaceful solution has been waived and justice rendered by the victim, which is contradictory to what we're teaching. Hence, our crime rate is at an all time high.
What are we going to do, do we keep going or do we change? We fight everybody but who we're supposed fight, so why fight yourself? Why won't we fight for self?
Disciplining self and the thought of nobody else knowing, this is where wisdom is really critical, especially when the outside pressure is so strong.
See your strengths and weaknesses. Acknowledge, you are susceptible to committing any combination of these sins, at any given time and in order to overcome them you must be able to forgive others who yield to the temptation.
We have things we do not want others to know, but at the same time, we want whatever they're offering. Many times that includes their spouse. If I can't have you then nobody can, what kind of an attitude is that? I brought you into this world and I will take you out, what kind of an attitude is that? I want to get married, what kind of an attitude is that?
Can you be honest about these things, well if you can't then you are looking to be destroyed. There is a time and place for everything, so keeping order is the main thing.
(((your inner voice.com)))