A Good Man…A Good Woman…Would You Know If You Had One?

by DEE

Sitting in the break room at work, I overheard some young ladies discussing the fact there are no good men available. I listened attentively and became irritated at some of the comments; “they don’t have any money”, “they don’t know how to treat a woman”, “they don’t have good jobs”, “they have more than one woman”, “they are cheaters and liars”…the negative descriptions went on and on.

Well, maybe they’re right! But, I asked myself as a mother of a male child and a widower, are the men they are describing the norm or the exception? Honestly, I think they all have had one or more of the characters the ladies described at some point. However, the real men make mistakes, learn from them and become better men. The problem is the men who never grow-up and change. They are the Butterfly Chasers who are never satisfied.

Butterfly Chasers go through life looking for “Mr. Right” or “Miss Right” and miss out on enjoying their lives with beautiful, loving people. When Butterfly Chasers finally wake up, it’s too late!

Another thought, when did a person’s character stop being what determined the type of human being?

The “Good Woman” or “Good Man” has moved on to someone who appreciates them. Remember, none of us are perfect, very few of us were born rich and while you are criticizing the other person, they are scrutinizing you also!

What are you bringing to the table? Are you carrying a lot of baggage? Are you a hopeless romantic looking at life through rose colored glasses?

Good relationships require hard work from both individuals. A relationship cannot be one-sided, each partner has to be willing to give or take when necessary. But, there must be a balance in the giving and taking. The relationship cannot be built on what we see on television.

It’s almost like walking on a tight rope, you must be focused at all times and one little slip-up, could be devastating. You must also be strong enough to forgive if the relationship is worth saving. If it is not worth saving, still be big enough to forgive and move on with haste.

Lesson Learned: “Avoid the pitfalls and be happy with your life.”

Love and Peace


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