String Along Relationships

by Margrett Dawson Wallace
(Pelham, Georgia USA)

String Along Relationships

Please be informed: 50 Reasons to Leave Skid Marks (Just one is reason enough to run fast.)

1. Either of you is married and not completely available.

2. The other is an active alcoholic or drug user, using substances regularly to avoid feelings.

3. You see the first sign of physical or mental abuse: put downs, degrading comments, pushing, shoving, yelling at you, or hitting.

4. The other person writes about what he does not want in a relationship.

5. You are not taken on dates and courted.

6. You are a "friend with benefits."

7. You are called for last minute get-togethers and rarely go out on dates.

8. You're not allowed to express your feelings and are labeled emotional.

9. There is no clear, genuine communication.

10. You feel as if you are walking on eggshells to accommodate the other person.

11. The other person rarely, if ever, lets you know he can be counted on.

12. After six months, you do not know the other person's family or friends.

13. Your relationship is kept secret from the other…

14. After having been physically intimate with you for weeks or months, the other person no longer allows sexual relations.

15. After expressing love for you, he takes back what he said.

16. You rarely go places or do things together, except work.

17. You have vastly different views about life.

18. Your spiritual or religious preferences are not honored and respected.

19. The other person tries to change you.

20. After intimacy, you are treated like a stranger.

21. You are put down in front of other people.

22. You are stood up for a date or plans.

23. Plans are repeatedly broken and not reset for another time.

24. You are not respected in your career.

25. He speaks badly behind the backs of other people he is "seeing."

26. Just about every other woman in his life is "just a friend" (that he slept with previously).

27. You are referred to as "someone I know."

28. There is no physical chemistry or passion in bed.

29. You cannot talk to him about anything.

30. If you have a misunderstanding, he ends your relationship rather than talking it out.

31. You never go on any sort of vacation or getaway with him.

32. You are not acknowledged on special occasions and holidays.

33. You are threatened in any manner.

34. Your relationship has all kinds of restrictions and boundaries that prevent intimacy.

35. After a few years you still do not share a life together or a genuine monogamous relationship.

36. He lets you know about the other people he is having sex with (to see if you get jealous).

37. He plays games with your feelings and tries to manipulate you.

38. He cuts off communication when you are trying to discuss something that bothers you.

39. He tells you to find someone else. (Do that!)

40. He can be intimate with you only if he is drunk, smoking weed, or high.

41. The relationship is off balance and one-sided, to suit his needs, without reciprocation.

42. Your personal growth is not honored.

43. He tries to control your finances and tells you what you can and cannot spend.

44. You have a telephone or Internet relationship and rarely get together in person.

45. No effort is made to see you in person regularly.

46. He goes out without you and calls you when he gets home in the middle of the night, but he rarely takes you out.

47. He refuses to talk openly about where you stand with each other.

48. He breaks up or stops contact with you repeatedly, and refuses to communicate openly, honestly, and authentically.

49. He makes it clear to you that you are "just friends" after you have been intimate.

50. Weeks go by without hearing from him at all.

I am just sharing...LMBO…Never to live this life again…

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Nov 19, 2016
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This list is horrible
by: Anonymous

In other worlds this book seems all about how to make the most insignifican issue the biggest drama. Its goona turn you in a selfish drama queen, a relationship control freak. I know ppl in a good normal relation ( notice the term normal and not amazing) who have zero, zero in common with the ideas of this book.

Jun 03, 2013
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by: Anonymous

This is straight from "Stop Being the String Along: A Relationship Guide to Being THE ONE," by Barbara Rose.

Margrett Dawson Wallace, you should be ashamed of yourself.

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