Twenty Years Later

by DEE

Today marks twenty years I have been a widow. This was the day I thought my life was over. I was frightened because it was the first time I had to make decisions on my own. Up until this point in my life, my daddy, mama and my husband made most of the decisions about my life. Even though my mother was right by my side, I knew everything fell on me. The first thing I did was to get by myself so I took a ride in my car. You see I not only lost my husband…I lost my best friend. I rode for about four miles and pulled over and began crying and moaning for about thirty minutes. I finally pulled myself together and at that very moment I realized the rest of my life was up to me. I had the choice to make it good or make it bad. There was one major factor that kept me moving…my children. They were looking to me for strength and support. There was no time for me to have a pity party so I kept positive and focused.

I wanted to share my truths with you in hopes my journey can inspire you to hold your head up and enjoy your journey through the good and bad times. After the funeral I had a chance to reflect on my life as a wife and mother and I came to the realization that this chapter of my life had come full circle and it was time to look ahead and welcome whatever the future had to

Over the past twenty years I have lived in three states and bought three houses, by myself. I have traveled to the Caribbean Islands, Italy, France, and sailed the Mediterranean Sea. By relocating to three different states, I have had the privilege to meet some very interesting people.

There are times I still get a little overwhelmed but I am a strong believer in “it will be better tomorrow”. I don’t sulk over things or people I have no control over. My mantra is “if I can’t help, I won’t harm”.

Losing a loved one is all a part of the natural scheme of life. Yes, it hurts but life goes on. We are compelled to treat each other with kindness and love every day because life is not promised. It’s too late to tell someone you love them after they have died.

Remember to keep moving forward, there’s always an Angel waiting to help you through! You must be wise enough to recognize your Angel.

Love and Peace

Time to Smell the Roses

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Mar 10, 2013
Love Is all there is
by: Junious Leak

I am very touched and at the same time very honored that you chose to share this story. It took me back to that time. I chose to run from the truth, as I did when my mother faced her crossing over. Buth through it all it bought me full circle to Gods' plan for my life. When I felt like givig up all my hopes and dreams he opened some windows to the world ahead and showed that life was still worth living because as I was told, my mother was very proud of me and my biggest supporter. She left this earth knowing that I was going to be OKAY. So, all in all, I know how you feel in a sense. You lost a friend a husband and a soulmate. I lost a very good friend and a loving mother. I found out too late how much she really loved me. I'll never, ever forget you and your family.

Junious "Lenny" Leak

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