“Perfect Harmony”

by Margrett Dawson Wallace
(Pelham, Georgia USA)

“Perfect Harmony”

Colossians 3:12-21
Do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged (v.21). May I share so it may help others or I may be helped…

My 49 year old son Paul is struggling to master difficult issues in his "life of choices and decisions" made from past experiences.

Living/or merely existing in the “pool house/suite” of his mother...recently confronted his mother with more unsolved “life issues”. His mother ordered him to start taking responsibility of his own problems by accepting what has happen in the past. Man-up by being a responsible person as he had been trained/raised to be/do.

His mother, threatening to put a stop to him living in the pool suite if he could/did not take control of his life. The threats continued: pay rent for the rest of the year or move out. Paul was told “stop being lazy minded, cowardly, self-indulgent, and pathetic.” His mother became hoarse from yelling, to what avail? Now there is “wait, watch, and see”...

Is it okay to harshly and excessively pressure our children to perform if we think the results will benefit them in the long run? As a self-proclaimed “Bitch Mum,” his mother’s fierce parenting style says: Yes! Yet the Bible says, “Do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged” (Colossians 3:21). Demanding perfection is one way to provoke our children and dishearten them.

It’s important to remember God doesn’t treat us this way. Rather, “The Lord is like a father to His children, tender and compassionate to those who fear Him” (Psalm 103:13). Reflecting on our own experiences with God’s grace can help us as we parent our children.

Along with God’s example, we have His instructions on how to treat people. Our children have much to gain when we “clothe ourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience” (Colossians 3:12). And, “above all, clothe ourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony” (v.14).

Harmony is often hard to achieve when it comes to working with our children. For we are children who have sampled our heavenly Father’s grace and love, however, we must continue to discipline, train and teach our children in a way that makes Him proud. Thanks for allowing me to share. Please comment if you have constructive information…never to live this life again…

Mary, Merry

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Jul 20, 2012
“Perfect Harmony”
by: Anonymous

How long must parents be held responsible for the actions of our children. Children are being removed the homes much too early in their formative years of learning. Remember that parents are children first teachers. We have allowed "the system" to raised our children. They have done nothing but mis-informed, mis-guided and lied to our children. Parents do the best job of teaching/training their children, but allow the system to take their children out of a loving, caring environment/home and literally destroy what the child has learn. The anonymous writer that said, quoted..."Since action speaks louder than words, our children learn from our actions and not just by our words. They watch us from birth, many times knowing us better than we know ourselves", unquote...needs to attend Effective Parenting" classes...to learn that before age 49, children are usually set in the ways they are raised from birth to dictated school age. But after they leave their home to attend school and they/[students] are made to stay there for twelve years...learning what? Then the writer had the audacity to write...why do we blame children for what they experienced and saw during their childhood? Why not blame the "system" instead of the parents.

I agree that sometimes a shift in our consciousness comes too late as parents allow the "system" to damage our children in the pretense of educating them. Our community [will benefit and grow] only when parents take responsibility to change the [system] and devise our own system of living our lives the way that would be beneficial to us by respecting our "human rights. Just maybe they/[parents] will not be blame with the actions of their children as the commentator suggested. If you have children, what age do you separate the child/ren from the parents' responsibility to them?

Jul 20, 2012
Colossians 3:12-21
by: Anonymous

Do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged (v.21).

Since action speaks louder than words, our children learn from our actions and not just by our words. They watch us from birth, many times knowing us better than we know ourselves. By age 49, one’s child is usually set in the ways they were raised from birth. Why do we blame children for what they experienced and saw during their childhood?

Sometimes a shift in our consciousness comes too late as the damage is already done. Our community will benefit and grow when parents take responsibility by not blaming the child for acting out their past experience through their action.

Jul 18, 2012
Perfect harmony with who, what?
by: Art

Do you see a need? Do others see the same need?

Great article and I hope we all learn. The Bible is a source, a guide; but if you become more consumed in following it to avoid certain situation, then be very careful.

The harmony with what? Mother Nature is the driving force, the seasons... IF you do not get online, in line with Mother Nature, then expect to meet the consequences.

For what do we raise children? Every person must contribute according to their own ability. You can't go wrong when a person has done the best they can do. And you know when they are helping and hurting. Don't take no book to tell you that. The less I do, the more you must do.

Are you or anybody else, for that matter, doing the best you can? Only you know, but we "all" have a responsibility and that is to maintain a healthy balance, if you want food, clothing, shelter, transportation... Keeping in mind, there is more to life, that us, me, I...

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