80 Years Of Age and What....

What do you think?

Today, I had the honor of having dinner with an eighty year old person. As an outsider, I would not have thought that. All I could see was wisdom and beauty. Like ants to sugar, after Thanksgiving dinner, friends around the tables engaged in friendly conversation. I was listening carefully when I thought I heard the eighty year old say, "Why don't you just eat your food". Not realizing that person may be the one to help her out one day.

At that moment, I thought there is something evil lurking about.

Before that, I did not hear anything out of place. My next thought was mental or emotional issues, if my ears serves me correctly, someone's feelings are hurt. Further, I should take just a little peak to see really what's going on.

The eighty year old proclaimed, there is nothing you can tell me, there is nothing to like about the south and I prefer to be back in New York, where it is all good. I don't have to do a thing and I don't do nothing. I am eighty years old, my husband is dead and now, I live with my daughter and don't have to do a thing.

This is a very sensitive situation, in that you are dealing with the forces of nature, how this person lived to date and socializing. My heart goes out to the caregiver.

Age is but a number. Attitude is everything! You are healthy and blessed to live to the age of eighty. Alone, you can't take care of yourself and you are not satisfied with current circumstances and because of that, you develop an attitude to show it.

First thought. You have nothing further to contribute to life and living. When you are not doing nothing, you are sleep and wakeup expecting everyone to cater to you.

Question: Is this what I have to look forward to at eighty?

My mom, I was her caregiver during her golden years, ages eighty-five to ninety. Of all my thankless caregiver duties, I am so happy she did not have a do-nothing attitude. Until her last breathe, she was eager and willing to lend a helping hand. She was happy to be alive.

Lesson Learned: Before you get there, check your attitude. Practice, being loving, kind and gracious for your older age. That will be returned to you. You never know what life is going to throw at you, but you do need to be prepared. We do not stop learning and meeting new challenges.

You never know who is going to be the one to "wipe your butt".

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