What kind of relationships are we creating? Are we creating relationships that cannot last? Are we in a serious state of denial? What are we going to do about our seriously increase in breakups and divorce rates? Fear of change or can we correct the problem? We say love everybody but too quick to turn on you.


While watching TV recently, I came across an interview with a lady that says she is "polyamorous". Of course, being very curious, I decided to check this out.

Polyamory, translated, means "many loves". Briefly, a polyamorous person is one who feels it is natural to romantically love more than just one person at a time. Polyamory is about love, without constraints by the dictates of society, defined only by the parameters we, as individuals, impose upon it.

A polyamourous person can "swing" but polyamory is not "swinging". The difference between the two is quite simple. In swinging, the emphasis is on sex. And while sex is as important to polyamory as to monogamy, the true emphasis is the same as that of monogamy: love.

Polyamory is not "cheating". It is a relationship structure built with the knowledge and approval of all partners involved. No secret relationships exist in polyamory. Openness, honesty, communication, trust....All the things that are key to a monogamous relationship are vital to polyamory.

Polyamory is not out to replace monogamy. Just as monogamy doesn't fit certain individuals, neither does polyamory. The two practices are not mutually exclusive, nor opposed in any way. Like most things in life, it is a matter of personal choice.

The parrot is used to signify polyamory. The colors of the poly flag, created by Jim Evans, are significant: "blue representing the openness and honesty among all partners with which we conduct our multiple relationships, red representing love and passion, black representing solidarity with those who, though they are open and honest with all participants within their relationships, must hide those relationships from the outside world due to societal pressures. A gold Greek lowercase letter "pi" is in the center of the flag, as the first letter in polyamory. The letter's gold color represents the value that we place on the emotional attachments to others, be the relationship be friendly, or romantic in nature, as opposed to merely primarily physical relationships. -- B and SD

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